Tracy Abdullah

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So many women are not really living and thriving because we are taught that we are unworthy of living life if we are unhealed or have trauma. Stop trying to heal and live your life. Credit: @Jacqueline Schadeck, CFP, AWMA #liveyourbestlife #healingjourney #therapytiktok #lifementor #womenover40

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Women Decentering Men: We discuss two distinct groups of women who want to decenter men. The first group is actively deconstructing their relationship with men and the patriarchy, still bargaining and seeking solutions. The second group has successfully decentered men by accepting them as they are and only engaging with them when they add value. We explore why these groups often clash, explain that decentering men is a mindset rather than just avoiding relationships, and reveal that both groups ultimately share the same goal but need different approaches to get there. Understanding the Difference between decentering and deconstructing #DecenteringMen #WomenEmpowerment #HighAchievingWomen #womenover30 #womenover40

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Decentering Men Is Not a Lifelong Journey: Center Yourself Instead We discuss why decentering men shouldn't be a decades-long process. The real goal isn't to spend your life avoiding centering men—it's to center yourself, your wants, needs, and desires. We explore how women can accidentally replace dependency on men with dependency on the struggle itself or on other women, and why that keeps you from true self-centering. While community spaces with women are valuable for processing pain, we talk about why that can't be your only focus if you want to actually honor and center yourself. #DecenteingMen #mentalhealthawareness #womenover30 #womenover40 #psychologyfacts

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Two Groups of Women Decentering Men: Understanding the Difference We discuss two distinct groups of women who want to decenter men. The first group is actively deconstructing their relationship with men and the patriarchy, still bargaining and seeking solutions. The second group has successfully decentered men by accepting them as they are and only engaging with them when they add value. We explore why these groups often clash, explain that decentering men is a mindset rather than just avoiding relationships, and reveal that both groups ultimately share the same goal but need different approaches to get there. #DecenteingMen #WomenEmpowerment #HighAchievingWomen #womenover30 #womenover40

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So the problem with decentering men content is that it does not deliver on its promise: allowing women to break free from the shackles of caring what men think of them. Most decentering men content focuses on why men are so terrible, why men do the things that they do, male psychology, instead of focusing on the ones needs and desires of women. These female gurus will teach about decentering men, while quite literally being married to a man. These gurus will tell you that you need to avoid romantic relationships with men, and they will shame you for having romantic feelings for men while they themselves are married to men, and live quite happily with men in their lives romantically. This type of content is a kin to red pill rhetoric for men. Except it is directed solely to women, especially women that need a support system around them. Decentering men is not a life long journey. It is actually a destination. And the goal shouldn’t just be too decent men, but it should be to descent her with which women are domesticated in this world. It’s not just decentering. Men is decentering superficial beauty standards. It’s decentering all of the masks that society asks women to wear. #decentermen #mentalhealth #womenover30 #womenintheir30s #womenover40