therapywith_b | MBACP

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Emotionally immature parents can dictate so much of your life that you reach adulthood without learning how to make decisions, advocate for yourself or trust your own discernment. When your choices were constantly controlled, criticised or made for you, you may struggle to know what you want, recognise what is healthy or feel confident standing up for yourself. This can affect your adult relationships, leaving you emotionally unavailable, disconnected from your needs or afraid of vulnerability. Sometimes, healing means learning in adulthood what you were never given the space to learn as a child. 🤷🏾‍♀️ #trauma #parents #familytrauma #estrangement #creatorsearchinsights

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If you aren’t anxiously attached then you don’t need to work on detachment and the let them theory isn’t for you! When you follow popular internet advice that is actually catered to people who operate differently from you then it can actually stop you from growing and evolving 🤷🏾‍♀️ #relationships #letthem #dating #avoidantattachmentstyle #creatorsearchinsights

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When a child experiences parental neglect, including having their hygiene, grooming and physical appearance overlooked, they can internalise the belief that they are not worth caring for. They may grow into adults who struggle with self-care, feel ashamed of their appearance or fail to prioritise their own needs because nobody taught them how. Others may become excessively preoccupied with their appearance, seeking the validation they did not receive growing up. Parental neglect can teach a child to neglect themselves. They may interpret their struggles as laziness or a lack of self-respect, without recognising that they were never taught how to care for themselves. Healing involves learning that the care you were denied was not a reflection of your worth, and that you are deserving of the attention, effort and compassion you may not have received as a child. 🤷🏾‍♀️#parents #familytrauma #estrangement #relationships #creatorsearchinsights