earlterrell

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My son’s mom texted me this morning asking to borrow $200 to get his layaway out. Under normal circumstances? That shouldn’t even be a complicated decision. It’s for my son. Send the bread and keep it moving… right? 🤷🏾‍♂️ But this is the first text I’ve gotten from her since Easter. We don’t communicate. Our last interaction was terrible. I’m taking her back to court for joint custody—for the fourth time—because from my perspective, I’ve spent years fighting for the opportunity to actually father my child. Earlier this year, I tried to extend an olive branch. I told her: Our son is getting older. We don’t have to like each other, but we should at least be able to lean on each other when it comes to him. I thought maybe we had finally reached some common ground. Then Easter happened, everything went left again, and we haven’t spoken since. Now suddenly… “Can I borrow $200?” And before y’all start yelling: “BRO, IT’S FOR YOUR SON! JUST SEND IT!” 😭😂 I KNOW. That’s exactly why I’m conflicted. I already pay child support. I’m still responsible for clothes, shoes and whatever else my son needs when he’s with me. And yes, I’m his father. I’m going to take care of him regardless. But when does “be a good father” turn into “keep taking everything on the chin because you’re the man”? Can somebody treat you like an enemy when it comes to access, communication and co-parenting… …but still expect you to operate like a teammate when they need something? And if you hesitate, does that automatically make you a bad father? Because THAT’S the part that feels ghetto as hell to me. 😭 I don’t want this to become a men vs. women conversation. I want parents—especially people who’ve dealt with high-conflict co-parenting—to answer this: If you were me… are you sending the $200? 👀 And do you separate how your co-parent treats YOU from what you’re willing to do financially when they say it’s for your child? Let’s talk about it. 👇🏾 #fyp #foryoupage #viral

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GHOSTING IS A BITCH-MADE SPORT. 😭😂 Male. Female. I don’t care who does it. That shit is WEAK. And before somebody hits me with the “Nobody owes you an explanation” speech… Technically? You might be right. But there’s a difference between what you owe somebody and how emotionally mature people choose to treat other human beings. Because when somebody ghosts you, YOU usually internalize it. “What did I do?” “Was I too much?” “Was I not enough?” “Was any of this shit even real?” When the truth might simply be: They didn’t have the emotional maturity to have an uncomfortable conversation. That’s why I don’t like ghosting. If I’m exiting stage left, I gotta tell you why I’m skating. 😂 I HAVE to let you know what YOU did and WHERE you had me fucked up at. 🤷🏽‍♂️😂 Why leave somebody in limbo when you can just communicate? ESPECIALLY WHEN YOU CAME LOOKING FOR THEM. 😭 Because listen… I’ve been ghosted FOUR FUCKING TIMES THIS YEAR. FOUR. 😭😂 And THREE of them? THEY APPROACHED ME. Like gang… respectfully… Y’ALL COULDA LEFT ME WHERE THE FUCK I WAS AT. 😂😂😂 One situation really made me think, though. After therapy, I started dating more intentionally and setting healthier boundaries. I met somebody I genuinely liked, established a boundary, and she seemingly interpreted it as rejection. We talked. Everything was supposedly cool… Then eventually? 👻 So now I’m wondering: Have we gotten so uncomfortable with rejection, boundaries and difficult conversations that disappearing feels easier than communicating? Ghosting might save YOU from an uncomfortable conversation, but it transfers all that confusion to somebody else. So CHAT… Is ghosting EVER justified? 👀 Or is it just emotional avoidance we’ve normalized because technology made disappearing easy? And if YOU’VE ghosted somebody… Why did disappearing feel easier than simply telling them the truth? 👀 Let’s talk about it. 👇🏾 #fyp #foryoupage #viral

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The bag FINALLY touched down from Serene Herbs, so you know I had to see what the hype was about. 😂🌿 Soursop + Black Seed Bitters. BACK TO BACK. RAW. No juice. No smoothie. No chaser. Just me, God & questionable decision making. 😭😂 I been waiting all week for this, so I said forget it… POP THE SEALS. WE IN THE GAME, COACH. 🫡😂 First time trying the soursop raw and I HAD to try both straight up at least once just to see what I was getting myself into. Now that the initiation ceremony is complete… 😂🌿 Who else takes Soursop or Black Seed Bitters? And BE HONEST… Y’all really taking these shots raw every day?! 👀😂 #fyp #foryoupage #viral