Ajit Nawalkha

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These are the 7 things Neeta and I do because we refuse to let this marriage turn into two people running a house together: 1. We check in on the small stuff. Not the calendar, not the kid. The stuff that's actually on their mind that day, the thing they can't quite name yet. 2. We eat one meal a day at the same table with no screens. Even when it's rushed. The screen-off table is where the marriage actually lives. 3. We flirt on purpose. After 10 years the flirting doesn't just show up anymore, you have to choose it. A text mid-day, a look across the room, whatever it is. 4. We keep learning something new together. A new place, a new skill, a new conversation. Roommates don't grow together, partners do, and the growth is what stops the drift. 5. We share what we're proud of each other for out loud. Not just to each other. In front of the friends, in front of the family, in front of the kid. Public honoring builds private safety. 6. We protect the mornings. No phones for the first hour. Just coffee and each other before the day starts pulling us in different directions. 7. We name it the moment it starts to feel off. The instant one of us feels the roommate energy creeping in, we say it out loud that same week. Naming the drift early is what stops it from becoming a canyon. If you want the deeper reframe on how to build the marriage that actually holds, my free guide on redefining love in your 40s is yours. Comment LOVE and I'll send it your way 👇 #marriageafter40 #love #relationships #notroommates #greaterinside

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The biggest mistake I made when I got married was expecting the spark to carry us forever... I thought love alone would be enough to make the marriage thrive. It took me a while to realise that's not how any of this actually works. Here are 5 skills I've had to learn to actually thrive in marriage after 40: 1. Communication. It's less about the words you use and more about how you say them. Tone lands harder than content, every single time. 2. Being present. Especially as a founder, learning to be where my feet are is hard, but it's the difference between being in the room with Neeta and just being in the building with her. 3. Empathy. Your partner needs to feel understood in the hard stuff, not fixed. Most of us jump to solutions when they just wanted to be heard. 4. Celebrating. Not just the big wins. Learning to notice the small stuff and mark it out loud so they know how much they matter. 5. Vulnerability. Being fully honest about what I'm actually feeling instead of the tidied up version I'd rather hand over. That's the part that built the deepest trust between us. That's the reality nobody warned me about, and it's the thing I wish I'd known at 30. If any of this hits, my free guide on redefining love in your 40s breaks the rest down. Comment LOVE and I'll send it your way 👇 #marriageafter40 #love #relationships #marriageskills #greaterinside

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This is the part that catches people off guard. The fix for time speeding up isn't slowing down 👀 It's doing more things badly for the first time. Novelty is what your brain uses to mark that a day happened at all. Book the thing you've never done before this month. Your memory of this year depends on it. #millenniallife #midlife #over40 #timeperception #greaterinside